Monthly Archives: October 2012

Don’t Settle!

We want to enjoy our life journey – as it happens – before we arrive at our destination. Often, when we reach a destination, it can be an anti-climax because we didn’t get things done that really matter. By focusing each day and every day on what is important, we can reach the end of our lives and not be riddled with regrets. There is not an infinite number of days left Sadly I sat at a funeral recently and a question kept ticking over in my mind. “Had the life before me been a full and rich life with few regrets?” Funerals remind us that the clock is always ticking – time stops for no one. There is not an infinite number of days left and every precious minute counts. As Thoreau said, “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them.” Have no regrets – don’t settle! Make it your mission to reject “settling” and aim higher than ever before to live a full and rich life. Know that others have walked this path and it is possible. It begins with the decision to be active – not passive. Don’t settle for what is – but rather…

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Hooked On Good Quality Thoughts!

What’s consuming your thoughts? How much time is wasted on thoughts of what has happened to you or others in the past? We are often fixated on an issue, an event that is in the past but still consuming our thoughts. What do you constantly worry about? Who do you complain about? What event from the past do you always think or talk about? This can be a heavy load to carry. There’s nothing to be ashamed of in admitting that you are caught up. We all go through difficult times – it’s great to realise that we can take responsibility for our lives and move on. Consider how much time and energy your poor quality thoughts actually consume. Three steps towards creating good quality thoughts: 1. Consider what poor quality thoughts are stemming from an issue you are caught up in. 2. Work out whether this situation can or can’t be changed. 3. Choose to unhook those poor quality thoughts and: • Accept what can be changed and move ahead in a valued direction. Or • Accept what can’t be changed and move ahead in a valued direction. Focus on living a life according to your values – soon your load will be…

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Connect With What Matters!

I acknowledge the wonderful timesaving advantages of technology in a rapidly changing world. There are enormous gains to be had at work and in life by using ICT well. Nevertheless, the time we are spending on social media, surfing the net, emails is having an impact. It reduces the time we spend on ourselves – nurturing our health, relationships, recreation, and achievements. Is this connection causing disconnection from what’s important? With our mobile devices at hand 24/7 we are constantly connected with the outside world and often disconnected from what is important. How is the technology playing out for you? *  Where once families would chat together on a car trip, we are now connected to our devices, removed from those around us. * Where once we would sit around the family dinner table and talk, devices distract us. * Where once children played outside, they are now logged on, causing increasing social and health issues. * Where once a couple would chat together at night, we are connected to social media, communicating with others outside our homes – potentially fatal to a relationship. Managing the technology connection Some of the most effective people I know manage the technology connection…

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To Reach Fulfilment Be Specific – not general!

Throughout our lives our results are measured: at school, at work, socially, and medically at the doctor. But when do we measure our fulfilment levels? Generally speaking When you are feeling sustained you might make statements such as: I feel great I feel energetic I feel happy. When you are feeling drained you might make statements such as: I feel hopeless I feel exhausted I feel unhappy. Stop being general and start being specific General statements like “Things don’t work out for me” or “Why should I bother – everything is fine” can be harmful because they: Keep us in DRAMA believing things are worse than what they really are. Keep us in DENIAL believing things are better than what they really are. DENIAL and DRAMA make for very unstable foundations. Unstable foundations are common pillars of mediocrity. Specifically where are you sustained or drained? Consider all the different areas of life and specifically ask: Am I sustained in this specific area? Am I drained in this specific area? Health Personal development Family life Personal life/love/romance Friendships Recreation/hobbies/fun Holidays Finances/income/expenses Passive income potential Work achievements/relationships After an in-depth analysis across specific categories we can begin to measure our fulfilment levels – learn…

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