Monthly Archives: March 2015

Don’t be too patient

When your values and your passion are congruent they become the fuel for your conviction. And your why matters when it comes to conviction. Conviction comes from alignment with your values. How much conviction do you have towards living a life according to your values? Conviction can sometimes be seen as impatience. Impatience is often criticised rather than praised, but I believe it’s an admirable quality. When you are impatient – driven towards the things you value, this restlessness may be just what’s needed to bridge the gap between where you are currently and where you want to be. Dr Russ Harris, writes in The Reality Slap: On one side is the reality we have, and on the other is the reality we want. And the bigger the gap between those two realities, the more painful the feelings that will arise: envy, jealousy, fear, disappointment, shock, grief, sadness, anger, anxiety, outrage, dread, guilt, resentment; perhaps even hatred, despair or disgust. And, whereas the slap is usually over quickly, the gap can persist for days, weeks, months, years and even decades. We can’t be too patient as within the gap between where we are now and where we want to be…

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Not just any type of busy

When we focus on what we value each day we have greater purpose and move forward in a valued direction. So rather than just being busy and getting things done we are busy getting the things done that really matter. There is a difference between goals and values. Goals are the small ticks on the way that keep us busy but the values provide you with focus and purpose. When we don’t reach our goals we can feel disappointed and lose momentum. This is why you also need a direction based on your values. Value-based directions are more powerful than goals alone as they are based on the why and not just the what. This distinction is the difference between the everyday busy and purposeful busy. The humble bee whose purpose is the simple act of pollinating plants by collecting nectar has a big purpose. Without this tiny creature we would starve. The food we need is a result of the hard, purposeful work of this and other insects. No pollination means no more plants. With no plants the animal kingdom would collapse. That’s a pretty big purpose I’d say. Like the bee, you too can live with purpose and have an important place in the…

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Seek long-term solutions

Life is often a daily search for solutions – solutions to problems big and small. But solutions can seem limited when there are a number of unresolved issues needing attention. Many turn to an easy, quick temporary fix. But the best way to solve life’s problems is by thinking ahead and committing to the long-term. Let’s consider some common problems that may need attention: Poor mental, physical or emotional health Poor relationships with family, friends or work colleagues Poor financial security. We often choose a short-term fix when we can’t see immediate returns. Short-term fixes delay finding long-term solutions and increases the chance that our problems become long-term pain. Band-aids like alcohol, drugs, overworking, oversleeping, overeating, denial and excuses only serve to numb pain in the short-term. Ironically, a quick fix, costs more time, energy and money in the long run as problems continue to surface. When we create a long-term solution now, we are most often rewarded with a very good return on investment well into the future. Leverage your success and create lasting fulfillment by making your solutions long-term. It comes down to taking responsibility and committing to a better life by asking daily “is this decision/action/solution in…

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Invest in you!

Being a True Believer takes self-respect. Rather than putting yourself second or third or even last because you “don’t have time”, True Believers know that they have to invest in themselves. With all of life’s demands you can sometimes find yourself at the bottom of the list, which increases stress, not only on you but on those close to you. We have to get ourselves back to the top of our list — or for some, back on the list. In life we give much of ourselves — physically, psychologically, emotionally and financially — to help and support others. Sometimes is it easy to overlook the one person who needs your help and support the most — and that’s you. There’s no doubt that raising children is an exhausting time. I remember, when my kids were little, that solitude was leaning against the shower wall, eyes closed, water running or closing the toilet door for a tranquil moment. For most it’s not easy to achieve some ‘self’ time, mainly because of our nature; our nature is to give to others first. We fear being labelled as selfish if we do focus on ourselves. The act of putting yourself first is not selfish…

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Be dependable

One of the major components to success is your ability to deliver on the promises you make – to do what you said you were going to. Ask yourself – when you say you will do something do you deliver on that promise? And do you deliver it when you said you would? If not the reasons (or excuses) actually become irrelevant, as we are at risk of being seen as unreliable and untrustworthy which not good for our success story. Over the last few decades in business I’ve worked on the principle of under promise and over deliver in my relationships. Back in my real estate days we focused on delighting clients with more value than they expected. This helped us to earn our title as one of the most profitable offices in Australia. Delivering on promises delivers on the bottom line! Be dependable and you will get asked more often. The under promise and over deliver model can work in any business and across any relationship. The only piece of the puzzle missing is you – you being aware of what you commit to and following this through. Not delivering on promises handballs your business to others. You…

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