Monthly Archives: September 2015

Move up the growth ladder

Dr Carol Dweck’s work on growth and fixed mindsets shows that those who have a fixed mindset settle for a life they think they’re stuck in. Those with a growth mindset understand that every day is a new beginning and an opportunity for new learning. Although we can sometimes find ourselves at the bottom of the growth ladder, we can always grow and move up — if you choose. Are you currently a non-believer? Non-believers: Lack purpose Their why and what are not aligned. They have lost a sense of why they do what they do — they are not focusing on their values. Lack conviction They lack a vision for a better life and lack conviction. Without a strong belief and a target to aim for there is no passion, stamina or resilience. Lack inspiration They lack inspiration and motivation, unable to visualise a desirable destination. They lack enthusiasm for life. Rarely finish They don’t deliver on their promises and so rarely finish what they start. They are not dependable and can be undisciplined. Are inconsistent They are inconsistent — with only bursts of belief, conviction and commitment. Their lack of clarity sabotages their success. Are drained They lack…

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Overcoming tough times

We all have our share of tough times. Why is it that when the going gets tough the tough get going? On the other side of the tough stuff there can be amazing growth and outcomes. There are many stories of True Believers who have created their own success masterpiece in spite of setbacks. We don’t always hear their back-story and lessons learned. Their setbacks can give valuable insights and inspiration. Sylvester Stallone was born in New York City. Due to a difficult birth in which he was delivered by forceps, Stallone was left with facial injuries and impaired speech. Although his injuries were only physical, people treated him as though he was stupid because of the way he spoke and his downturned mouth. He had known his whole life that he wanted to be in the movie business. Stallone had many setbacks, as jobs did not come easily. He was told over and over that he would never make it. Stallone established worldwide recognition as an actor, writer and director in his own screenplay of Rocky, which won three Academy Awards. According to the World Wide Box Office the first Rocky movie grossed over $200 million dollars and the…

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Persist after setbacks

Once we have experienced a setback we have to let go of what has happened in order to move forward — we have to expire the old stuff and persist. When with clients I will often identify the setbacks of their past — ones that have become repeated stories. The setback has stayed with them and they find it hard to move on. Being aware of the old stories and making a decision to stay out of drama, is critical to success. Success is ultimately an inside game. Managing setbacks is predominately about what happens on the inside! Eckhart Tolle in The Power of Now says: The sooner you realise that your outer purpose cannot give you lasting fulfilment, the better. When you have seen the limitations of your outer purpose, you give up your unrealistic expectation that it should make you happy, and you make it subservient to your inner purpose. Persistence is the key to success and managing setbacks. Being persistent influences the direction of our lives and keeps us in alignment with our values. There are millions of small steps on life’s journey. Some of these steps don’t go according to plan but they are all part…

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Undress ambition

Not everyone feels comfortable declaring his or her success or ambitions. But declaring ambition is a key factor in overcoming blocks to success. And when you are in the business of solving others’ problems and making their lives better a declaration is a perfect way to amplify your intentions, get known and fast track success. Money isn’t everything — I personally left a large income for a greater purpose. But money goes a long way in helping to live a full and rich life and provides opportunities to be generous to others. Doing purposeful work often brings an abundance of commercial success. In 2012 I made the decision to become a thought leader, to run my own thought leaders practice and to create intellectual property that would solve other people’s challenges in business and in life. And there was no way I was going to keep this vision a secret as I had done previously! What I had learnt in previous years — when I hadn’t declared my vision — was that I have to state my intention clearly and make sure that I don’t waste precious energy and time by not undressing my ambition. Before I declared what my…

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Take courageous action

While decisions are the starting point, we often need courage to act, to persist and to finish. Courage comes when the decision and desire to change triumphs over our debilitating fears. High achievers know this secret and make decisions, take action and create amazing outcomes, in spite of their fears. Courage requires you to first acknowledge fearful thoughts and to understand that these thoughts shouldn’t stop you from taking action. Our ability to be courageous is directly related to a strong desire for a new outcome. If the desire for the outcome is weak, you will not act or will not follow through. Sometimes courage needs stamina! Maya Angelou said, Courage is the most important of all the virtues, because without courage you can’t practice any other virtue consistently. You can practice any virtue erratically, but nothing consistently without courage. In exercising courage, there is a period of discomfort. But through taking consistent courageous action and experiencing the positive outcomes over time, comes a continued willingness and resilience to act despite the fears. Then comes the most liberating and exhilarating discovery that on the other side of courageous action lies the most spectacular growth and life outcomes. There are fears…

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