Monthly Archives: April 2016

Facing fear and tipping points

An issue or a series of changes that become significant enough to cause a large impact defines a tipping point. Many will escape these critical points and remain content without much change. For some, these tipping points, although often painful, can create the greatest transformations. Think about the events throughout your life that have had considerable impact — those major events that rocked your world — in a good or not so good way. Often these critical points hold considerable pain that can wake us up to the truth we have been ignoring. About five years ago I was paralysed by fear — knowing that to live in my own true path I would have to leave the family business and work on my own legacy, and this would mean disappointing my dad – the one I looked up to most. I had to face up to four fears: First, I feared how much I would disappoint my father if I resigned. I had always looked up to him and wanted his recognition and approval. I had worked for him for 12 years. I felt guilty that I would let him down if I left. Second, I feared letting go….

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Stay out of drama

Being in drama about what has gone on in the past can prevent you from moving forward. Being in drama uses up time and energy and can also prevent the growth required. By staying out of drama we can increase our productivity in a massive way — giving us many more effective hours in our day. Drama that causes us to bring up the past or worry over the future in either our thoughts, conversation and actions may include: • a relationship • an event • a situation • a job How much of your day is taken up with the following? • blaming • gossiping • judging • criticising • complaining • feeling sorry for yourself • worrying • trying to solve others problems without addressing your own Imagine all the minutes of drama that add up to hours and hours every day. It’s not just the effect the drama has on us but also the effect it has on others around us. All of these negative behaviours of playing persecutor, victim or rescuer, keep us focused on what has gone on before or what may be in the future. People who live in drama often do so to…

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Pave a clear path

De-cluttering is an essential productivity tool. Remove the clutter so that you can see the path ahead. Live with clutter and you live with obstacles. Highly productive people de-clutter quickly emotionally, psychologically and physically. It’s time to pave the way to success by spring-cleaning the clutter in your life. When heading in a valued direction, you need to clear the path. Like a pregnant woman who knows the baby is coming and spring-cleans the house, we too need to go through every area of life to get sorted to make life easier. As we move in a value based direction we need to make sure that the path is as smooth as possible and that the environment is right. Getting really organised is paramount. When there is an obstacle in your way, you have to go around it, climb over it, go under it or move it — all productivity suckers. We need to identify the physical and mental clutter and remove it once and for all. Once the clutter is out of mind and sight we can think, see and act more clearly. Have you had clutter in your life and said, “I’ll get to that someday?” Well today…

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Commit to taking responsibility

The power of personal promise and commitment are the foundations of fulfilment. When we learn to reject our excuses we then commit to a life that rocks! There are three parts to commitment: 1. Responsibility — no excuses 2. Clarity — clear focus 3. Productivity — do what matters It’s the responsibility piece we have to get right first. We sometimes work hard at finding clarity and being productive without really taking responsibility and often wonder why we fail. Responsibility is the essential building block that keeps our commitment strong. My biggest cringe is excuses. That’s for excuses I make and that others make too. I guess you might say I have an ‘excuse radar’ that I use on myself and others all the time. This radar helps me identify excuses so they don’t sabotage attempts at success. Many decide what they want in life but then seem to break into two groups: 1. Those who decide, but don’t take responsibility 2. Those who decide, then commit and take responsibility It’s not about working harder or longer (as we all know where that leaves us); it’s about committing to the life you decide you want. • Commit to taking responsibility…

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