Monthly Archives: July 2016

Let conviction be your fuel

Conviction creates energy — stamina for taking action in line with your values more consistently. This persistent action helps to maintain the direction you want to go in. Without the action you just have the why (the values) and the what (the decision) but you don’t reach your destination if you don’t take action. Some are accused of being all talk and no action – they speak like they have conviction but their actions are not congruent.   Conviction is the fuel that gives belief the stamina so we don’t quit before we get to our destination. As Paulo Coelho said, “ Don’t allow your mind to tell your heart what to do. The mind gives up easily.”   Conviction is like a flame that burns brightly and that’s hard to put out. But even when our fire goes a little dim — maybe when it’s time to rest and recharge for a while, the fire of conviction will fire again soon.   Resistance is often futile when it comes to being influenced by those with conviction. Those True Believers with conviction — who live by their values, are passionate and take consistent action — are well on their way…

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NOTHING TO PROVE

Convincers look for agreement or recognition, trying to prove a particular point of view to themselves or to others. And while they are often successful in their convincing, they spend extra time and energy doing so, creating stress for themselves and for others. Convincers gather evidence to promote their case and can come across as pushy with their constant need to get approval and acceptance.   Convincers will often turn up in an environment where a yes is required, by making claims and closing in for an agreement. But often there are underlying factors which cause convincers to act as they do. Some look like they have it all with their upfront and confident exterior. It looks like they are successful, with heaps of money, flashy houses, cars and fabulous holidays, but we often don’t see what is going on in the background. While it may seem that they have it all, they could be going further and further into debt and taking their health and relationships down with them. Many convincers try to keep up appearances to prove that they are worthy and successful, but this facade is unhelpful and often damaging. Making life look different to what’s really…

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CHOOSE YOUR TRIBE

Each tribe has certain characteristics — a cultural identity that makes it unique. These are determined by the beliefs, attitudes and behaviours of its members. Consider: • Are you currently part of a tribe? • Is the culture right for you? • Are you and the tribe a good fit? • Does your current tribe inspire you? In the words of Eckhart Tolle, “A group of people coming together in a state of presence generates a collective energy field of great intensity.” Take the True Believer tribe for example, it has certain characteristics and expresses its cultural identity in many ways. True Believer tribes have the following characteristics that make them unique. They: 1. Show vision and purpose – their why and their what are aligned 2. Have belief 3. Display conviction 4. Commit to their values 5. Expire the old stuff 6. Undress their ambition 7. Feel success in advance 8. Have an excuse free culture 9. Expect setbacks 10. Have a growth mindset 11. Accept that non-believers are part of the journey 12. Come together for learning, support, accountability, contribution and friendship 13. Increase consciousness within themselves and others 14. Have no regrets 15. Create success masterpieces! And…

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THREE STEPS TO “BREAK THE ICE”

1. A smile Have you ever walked along and had a stranger smile at you? We think: “Do I know them?”, “Why are they smiling at me?”, “I didn’t smile back, maybe I should have!” A smile we receive makes us feel good. An authentic smile radiates warmth that says we are open. I have known a smile to repair strained marriages, create new relationships and turn average working relationships into strong ones — bonding over a simple smile. When we smile at someone we are seen as: • more approachable and open to communication • more attractive and likeable • more sociable. 2. A kind word Sometimes the tension between two people is so strong that meaningful communication has ceased. A kind word shows an openness to communicate and that you care. There is always something kind to say. 3. A caring ear It’s time to listen. A caring ear demonstrates a willingness to hear another point of view. If we want to be understood, we need first to understand. It takes one person to decide to ‘break the ice’, and there is no better way than a smile, a kind word or a caring ear — it may…

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BUILD A BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH NON-BELIEVERS

Sometimes we can wrongly identify non-believers. We can be too quick to judge others through their words or actions or through lack of words or inaction. We label them as a non-believer when in fact with a little bit of understanding and effort we can build better relationships with those who we thought were non-believers. Have you ever complained that something is missing in your life? Do you feel that you are not receiving what you want or what you believe you deserve? Or that someone has been ungrateful, disrespectful, disloyal, unkind, unloving or unaffectionate? Of course — we all have. We might call these people non-believers. But the fact is that it is important to be aware that most often what you are receiving actually parallels what you are giving. Don’t expect to receive anything that you are not prepared to give yourself. Or to put it another way — expect back what you give out. First give what you want to receive: • To receive gratitude, first give gratitude. • To receive respect, first be respectful. • To receive loyalty, first be loyal. • To receive kindness, first show kindness. • To receive love, first give love. And…

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