Monthly Archives: January 2017

The only option

Life is full of highs and lows – but let’s hope more highs. In the last few years was there a tough period for you – a time when you were down in the dumps? Maybe you’re still doing it tough. Unfortunately the events, which determine these tough times, can sometimes be out of our control. What is in our control is how we choose to move forward after the tough time – how we decide to recover. When setbacks happen it’s important to handle them quickly. If we stay down in the valley for too long, it becomes a difficult place to leave and a safe place to stay. We linger in the tough times when the fear to act is greater than the discomfort of not acting. However some incredibly courageous decisions can happen in the tough times. I’ve seen many people at their lowest point find the greatest and most unexpected gifts through their setbacks. Failures and setbacks may teach you valuable lessons that you might never have learnt otherwise. I say may because too often we don’t learn from where we have been. Learn and grow from your setbacks to find life’s supreme gifts. As we…

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To commit is sometimes to resign

Quitting at something, if it is not in line with your values, can be a form of persistence. This is persisting in a valued direction. Sometimes we need to quit a relationship, a job, or any particular current position if it is preventing us from moving ahead in the direction that matters. In April 2011, I cried on and off for a month – after I resigned from a high paying job with an awesome team and a secure future. I was so emotional at first because it was a loss, losing everything that had been such a big part of my life all at once — working with my dad, my team, my clients, the work and the income. I surrendered to the pain I had bottled up and had been hiding; I wanted to just release it at this point – a time of great growth and healing. The day after I resigned, there was something profoundly different about me. My head and my stomach were still a mess with emotion, but the tension and anxiety that I had been holding onto – the fear about taking action had dissipated in just one day. One decision, one event,…

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Live excuse-free!

I have a declaration to make – I cringe when people make excuses. I’ve seen how making excuses can adversely affect life. When we make excuses we are saying that we are not responsible and that someone or something else is. I’m big on taking responsibility and I do cringe at excuses. I think you should too. Most people strive to create a better life and although we know what action needs to be taken sometimes we make excuses to avoid doing what needs to be done. Do these sound familiar? I have to wait until… I just don’t feel like it… I don’t have the tools to… I can’t because… It’s not my fault…. It’s not my problem…. If only they had…. It’s too late now… I don’t have time….. Nothing identifies a mediocre person more quickly than excuses. Successful people strive towards a result without excuses. Confront your own excuses and take more responsibility.  Own up to your shortfalls and instead of “if only” say “next time I’ll do better”. We are all leaders as parents, friends and team members. As a leader it’s really important to not make excuses. We must lead by example to see the…

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What highly productive people do

Decluttering is an essential productivity tool. Remove the clutter and see the path ahead. Live with clutter and live with obstacles. Highly productive people declutter quickly. It’s time to pave the way to success by spring-cleaning the clutter in your life. When heading in a valued direction, you need to clear the path. Like a pregnant woman who knows the baby is coming and spring-cleans the house, we too need to go through every area of life to get sorted to make life easier. As we move in a valued-based direction we need to make sure the path is as smooth as possible and the environment is right. Getting really organised is paramount to being productive. When there is an obstacle in your way, you can go around it, climb over it, go under it or move it – all productivity suckers! We need to identify what the physical and mental clutter is and remove it once and for all. Once the clutter is out of mind and sight we can think, see and act more clearly. Have you got clutter in your life and said, “I’ll get to that someday?” Well today is that someday – make a declutter…

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STOP wishing

We sometimes wish for a better life and that our current reality was different and hope that someday things might change. Problems can arise when our wishing becomes a habit of inaction that keeps us in a fantasy land. So don’t wait for past wishes to be granted – those who wish wait longer than those who decide and act. It’s fun to wish upon a star, to throw a coin into a wishing well and to blow a wish across dandelion seeds. But how often do our wishes really come true? As we cut our birthday cake each year and make a wish do those wishes get answered? Wishing reveals a desire or longing within us. But while wishing can be a fun, it can also be a place to hide from the work that needs to be done to live our best life. Some even hope for a Genie to show up or wait for others to come to the rescue. It doesn’t mean we don’t wish, it just means we decide and take action to make our wishes a reality – we take personal responsibility. We decide to get things done that matter – the things we…

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