Monthly Archives: August 2017

Let courage triumph

While decisions are the starting point, we often need courage to act, to persist and to finish. Courage comes when the decision and desire to change triumphs over our debilitating fears. High performers know this secret and make decisions, take action and create amazing outcomes in spite of their fears. Courage, and the conviction that drives it, are the gateway to a fulfilled life. Conviction through courage requires you to first acknowledge fearful thoughts and understand that these thoughts shouldn’t stop you from taking action in your chosen direction – where we don’t settle and don’t quit in the pursuit of what matters. Our ability to find the conviction is directly related to a strong desire for a new outcome. If the desire for the outcome is weak, we will not act or will not follow through. Conviction can come from being passionate about living by our values – congruence is key here. In exercising courage, there is a period of discomfort. Through taking action in what matters, in spite of fear and experiencing the positive outcomes over time, a sense of belief develops. Then, as the results increase, so does the courage, as well as a willingness to act,…

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REVEAL the truth

There’s a major cover-up going on – in homes, workplaces and communities. Our standard of living is going up but, for many, the quality of life is going down. On the treadmill of life, it is often easier and quicker to look for short-term fixes to find relief and numb the pain and cover up the truth. Finding the solutions to a better quality of life begins when we STOP the cover-up and start treating the cause. The World Health Organization reports that depression is the fourth costliest and most incapacitating sickness in the world – by 2020 it will be second. One in five people will suffer depression at some point in their lifetime. Among the frustration, stress and strain, many look for relief to cover-up underlying issues. Relief can come in many forms like painkillers, drugs, cigarettes, alcohol or sleeping tablets. We can use avoidance techniques like denial, delusion, procrastination, oversleeping, overeating, over socializing and overworking. Although the cover-up offers temporary relief and often pleasure it simply acts as a band-aid. These major issues beg for more permanent relief. The solution does come with some discomfort as often “the truth hurts”. It requires us to find the cause of the…

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Knowing is not enough

It’s one thing to know a lot – to read, to learn, to have life experiences, but it’s everything to turn that knowledge into getting the things done that matter. Being smart is not so smart if you don’t use that knowledge to take the action to create the life you want. For 12 years, several times a year, I attended sales and leadership training – often with the same leaders from the real estate industry. We shared the same training experience, the books we purchased were the same and the methods we used and the market conditions were the same in our offices. Despite this similar knowledge there were vastly different results and profits across the offices. The winning teams took action on what they learnt at training. The mediocre teams would make comments like “I know what I should be doing but I don’t have time” or “I’ve heard it all before”. Those with a growth mindset and a bias for action understand that to create a fulfilled life we need to be aware of what we know, but we also need to apply what we know. Action is how we progress through knowledge. Without specific action the benefit from training might be a…

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Solutions behind closed doors

Our life satisfaction is greatly influenced by our mindset. Our state of mind, assumptions and beliefs, are a powerful motivator determining our action or inaction. Holding a fixed mindset can close us down to new thinking and to finding solutions. Success lies in our ability to challenge existing ideas, be open to learning and embrace the action required. Do you sometimes say, “That’s just the way I am” or “I’ve always done it that way”? Are you a “know it all” – thinking you have learnt all you need? At 14 I declared to my parents, “You can’t teach me anything, I know it all!” Imagine the attitude that must have gone with that thinking. Thankfully, leaving home at 17 brought swift changes to that closed mindset! Do you have a fixed or growth mindset? After decades of research on achievement, Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck made groundbreaking findings on fixed and growth mindsets, documented in her book Mindsets – The New Psychology Of Success. In a fixed mindset, we believe that our intelligence or talents are fixed traits – that talent alone creates success. In a growth mindset, we believe that our abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work –…

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