Monthly Archives: January 2020

Let conviction be your fuel

Conviction creates energy — the stamina for taking action in line with your values. This persistent action helps to maintain the direction you want to go in. Without the action you have the why (the values) and the what (the decision) but you can’t get to your destination if you don’t take action. Some are all talk and no action – they speak like they have conviction but their actions are not congruent. Conviction is the fuel that gives belief stamina so we don’t quit before we get to our destination. As Paulo Coelho said, “Don’t allow your mind to tell your heart what to do. The mind gives up easily.” Conviction is a flame that burns brightly and hard to put out. Our fire may go a little dim —when it’s time to rest and recharge for a while and the fire of conviction will flare up again. Resistance is often futile when it comes to being influenced by those with conviction. True Believers with conviction — those who live by their values, are passionate and take consistent action. They are well on their way to their finish line. But what will it take to ensure that we get to that finish? Commitment –…

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Nothing to prove

Convincers look for agreement or recognition, trying to prove a particular point of view to themselves or to others. And while they are often successful in their convincing, they spend extra time and energy doing so, creating stress for themselves and for others. Convincers gather evidence to promote their case and can come across as pushy with their constant need to get approval and acceptance. Convincers will often turn up in an environment where a yes is required, by making claims and closing in for an agreement. But often there are underlying factors which cause convincers to act as they do. Some look like they have it all with their upfront and confident exterior. It looks like they are successful, with heaps of money, flashy houses, cars and fabulous holidays, but we often don’t see what is going on in the background. While it may seem that they have it all, they could be going further and further into debt and taking their health and relationships down with them. Many convincers try to keep up appearances to prove that they are worthy and successful, but this facade is unhelpful and often damaging. Making life look different to what’s really going on is the surest path away from fulfilment. The true wealthy are…

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Choose your tribe

Each tribe has certain characteristics — a cultural identity that makes it unique. These are determined by the beliefs, attitudes and behaviours of its members. Consider: Are you currently part of a tribe? Is the culture right for you? Are you and the tribe a good fit? Does your current tribe inspire you? In the words of Eckhart Tolle, “A group of people coming together in a state of presence generates a collective energy field of great intensity.” Take the True Believer tribe for example, it has certain characteristics and expresses its cultural identity in many ways. True Believer tribes have the following characteristics that make them unique. They: 1.  Show vision and purpose – their why and their what are aligned 2.  Have belief 3.  Display conviction 4.  Commit to their values 5.  Expire the old stuff 6.  Undress their ambition 7.  Feel success in advance 8.  Have an excuse free culture 9.  Expect setbacks 10. Have a growth mindset 11. Accept that non-believers are part of the journey 12. Come together for learning, support, accountability, contribution and friendship 13. Increase consciousness within themselves and others 14. Have no regrets 15. Create success masterpieces! And like any tribe, those within it are at…

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How to create a more peaceful planet

1. A smile Have you ever walked along and had a stranger smile at you? We think: “Do I know them?”, “Why are they smiling at me?”, “I didn’t smile back, maybe I should have!” A smile we receive makes us feel good. An authentic smile radiates warmth that says we are open. I have known a smile to repair strained marriages, create new relationships and turn average working relationships into strong ones — bonding over a simple smile. When we smile at someone we are seen as: •    more approachable and open to communication •    more attractive and likeable •    more sociable. 2. A kind word  Sometimes the tension between two people is so strong that meaningful communication has ceased. A kind word shows an openness to communicate and that you care. There is always something kind to say. 3. A caring ear It’s time to listen. A caring ear demonstrates a willingness to hear another point of view. If we want to be understood, we need first to understand. It takes one person to decide to ‘break the ice’, and there is no better way than a smile, a kind word or a caring ear — it may…

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Focus on the vision

Once we discover how much time is wasted on thoughts of what has happened to us or to others in the past we can consciously focus on our vision. But we are often fixated on an issue or an event that is in the past but is still consuming our thoughts. Expire the old stuff and focus on today and your vision for the future. Take a moment to consider: What do you constantly worry about? Who do you complain about? What event from the past do you always think or talk about? This can be a heavy load to carry. There’s nothing to be ashamed of in admitting that you are caught up. We all go through difficult times — it’s great to realise that we can take responsibility for our lives and move on. Four ways to move the focus from the past to a vision for the future are: 1. Consider what poor quality thoughts are stemming from an issue you are caught up in 2. Accept whether this situation can or can’t be changed 3. Choose to unhook those poor quality thoughts 4. Focus and take action towards making your vision a reality. By changing focus…

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