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Commit to taking responsibility

The power of personal promise and commitment are the foundations of fulfilment. When we learn to reject our excuses we then commit to a life that rocks! There are three parts to commitment: Responsibility  — no excuses Clarity  — clear focus Productivity — do what matters It’s the responsibility piece we have to get right first. We sometimes work hard at finding clarity and being productive without really taking responsibility and often wonder why we fail. Responsibility is the essential building block that keeps our commitment strong. My biggest cringe is excuses. That’s for excuses I make and that others make too. I guess you might say I have an ‘excuse radar’ that I use on myself and others all the time. This radar helps me identify excuses so they don’t sabotage attempts at success. Many decide what they want in life but then seem to break into two groups: 1. Those who decide, but don’t take responsibility 2. Those who decide, then commit and take responsibility It’s not about working harder or longer (as we all know where that leaves us); it’s about committing to the life you decide you want. Commit to taking responsibility — reject excuses. Commit to staying focused — find clarity. Commit…

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Get in the game

Time stops for no one — there are a finite number of days left. With that in mind the questions are – are you where you want to be? How prepared are you to take a risk to get in the game and create the life you want? How much of your time is spent on thinking or talking about what you want and what you should be doing rather than actually doing it? Are you all thought and talk and no action? Do you: Have thoughts of success without taking action? Have lots of coffee dates and meetings to talk about what you intend to do but nothing happens? Use language like “I’m going to lose weight”, “I’m going to get organised”, “I’m going to have my best year yet” or “I wish I could live by the water, I wish I had a partner and I wish I had more money”. These common phrases should ring alarm bells — alarms that say stop procrastinating. Success does leave clues. Successful people think carefully first and then quickly get on with it. After over two decades in sales and leadership, I have observed and mentored many. Winning people: are active, not passive don’t waste…

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The best view

As we move towards success there can be any number of distractions. The trick is to know when to look sideways and benefit and when not to. Getting that right has a big impact on how effective and resilient you are. As competitive beings, many of us want to keep up with others, but by doing so we can put real pressure on ourselves. When we look at others we see what we want  — the big house, fancy holiday or expensive lifestyle — but the I want what she’s (or he’s) got mindset is rarely helpful. If you like a little competition, don’t compete with others, compete with the you from yesterday and aim to better yourself each day. Ask yourself — do you look sideways to: learn or judge? include or exclude? help or hinder? praise or criticise? accept or reject? admire or compare? To compare can sometimes motivate, but more often it distracts us from focusing on what really matters. It’s rarely helpful to look sideways at what others might have or be doing. My advice is: stop comparing! Looking behind has few benefits either, unless you look to the past to learn for the future. Take a quick glance,…

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Set for success

Decisions have been made, you know what you want and the stage is set for success. Or is it? Deciding what you want and setting goals is often a step taken. For many, however, the goals set are never realised. I believe there is a more effective way to commit to a life that rocks by using an alternative to goal setting. I’m a goal setter from way back. My family, teams and clients and I have kicked a lot of personal and business goals. But as time passed I saw that setting and achieving a goal does not necessarily bring fulfilment. In fact I saw a lot of high achievers who were not happy or fulfilled because, at some point as they climbed the ladder of success, fulfilment had escaped them. I did that for years but have now learnt a better way. I’ve felt that ‘ouch’ myself, and it was a painful but a great tipping point. As a result I teach an alternative to goal setting that delivers life-changing results. Fulfilment comes from moving forward in a direction aligned with our values — setting what I call value-based directions rather than goals. I discovered through this life changing exercise: If you…

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Courage is the fuel

Self-doubt is common, but not helpful. When it shows up in our thoughts it overpowers our beliefs and makes us a non-believer. When the inevitable tough time arrives we often can’t see how it is possible to move forward. Fear and doubt keep us stuck in a rut. There are fears and doubts we speak of and those we don’t. Those we don’t acknowledge are often the ones that keep us awake at night and give us the greatest pain. If action is the vehicle to move us forward, courage is the fuel needed to drive us from a difficult to a desired destination. But the non-believer is without this fuel, is riddled with fear and doubt and becomes immobile. The non-believer can be paralysed by: fear of failure — what if I don’t make it? fear of rejection — what will others think? fear of success — am I good enough? The non-believer is a pessimist. As Winston Churchill said, “The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” Self-doubt and negative thoughts hold the non-believer back from finding fulfilment as they hesitate to see a better future. Distrust and lack of belief in themselves…

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