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Respecting the opinions of others

As a child, and as an adult, we just want to be loved, we often want approval and the non-believer in us or in others can quickly hurt our belief, conviction and commitment — if we allow it. We need to expect and accept that non-believers are all around us and always will be. Do you sometimes think that the person closest to you is the reason you have not achieved your dreams and your potential? And if this person were more positive or supportive, that your life would be different? Whether it be a husband, wife, mother, father, sister, brother, friend, colleague or boss if we don’t accept others for who they are and for the opinions they hold, we can label them as non-believers and damage potentially meaningful and long-term relationships. Some say that it’s none of our business what others think of us. True Believers are okay with the fact that some won’t believe in what they are trying to achieve. Warning: Don’t be confused about honest feedback from good advisors who have walked the path you want to walk, treating it as negative and thereby ignoring it. Sometimes the truth hurts and we can label these honest advisors as…

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The non-believer in you

When self-doubt shows up in our thoughts it can overpower our beliefs and we become a non-believer. Sometimes we don’t realise that we have become riddled with doubt and that we are preventing our own success and that of those around us. Being a non-believer does not have to be a permanent state. But in order to move away from this difficult way of being, it does require us to first identify if we are currently a non-believer and then to make the changes required – this is our salvation and tipping point to a brighter possibility as a True Believer. Once we identify that we are a non-believer we are already on our way as we are no longer unaware or in denial. The non-believer in you will then be a distant memory once we master these five success steps: Expire the old stuff Undress your ambition Feel it in advance Cringe at excuses Expect setbacks. In life there is so much to get done and we give so much of ourselves — physically, psychologically, emotionally and financially — to help and support others. Sometimes is it easy to overlook the one person who needs your help and support…

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How to be a True Believer

Many wish their dreams would come true – imagining what their life could be. True Believers don’t wish – they turn dreams into reality by igniting the three superpowers for success – belief, conviction and commitment. Belief The starting line: get in the game. As we begin the marathon that is our life, we are full of belief, but it’s a vision without proof. We know what we want the finish line to look like but there’s no evidence. However our belief at the beginning of the journey is a force of nature that drives us. Self-belief brings hope, trust and resilience for the game ahead. Conviction The journey: play and stay in the game As the game progresses it’s belief that drives you towards the finish line. It doesn’t matter what knocks you get, who says you can or you can’t — conviction is that quality that gives stamina to our belief. When we know why and what we want and how to get there, we persist. True Believers don’t quit! Commitment  Cross the finishing line: finish the game As we near the finish line, powered by our belief and conviction, there is a consistent commitment to delivering on…

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Break the excuse addiction

Excuses can come in different forms. We can express them verbally, we can think them, or we can adopt behaviours such as addictions. Disguising problems and numbing the pain is really making an excuse for not finding a solution. I cringe at excuses because excuses mean that we are essentially not taking responsibility for our life. Eckart Tolle in The Power Of Now says: Every addiction arises from an unconscious refusal to face and move through your own pain. Every addiction starts with pain and ends with pain. Whatever the substance you are addicted to — alcohol, food, legal or illegal drugs, or a person — you are using something or somebody to cover up the pain. That is why after the initial euphoria has passed, there is so much unhappiness, so much pain in intimate relationships. They do not cause pain and happiness. They bring out the pain and unhappiness that is already in you. Every addiction does that. Every addiction reaches a point where it does not work for you anymore, and then you feel the pain more intensely than ever. Problems begin when we hide our truth and numb our pain. Relief from pain can also include avoidance techniques like giving reasons, procrastination,…

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Take some time to reflect on the past

Even though we don’t want to live in or dwell in the past, before leaping forward into 2019 don’t miss a crucial step taken by the highly successful. It’s time to reflect on the past, as this is where little clues lie that have a big impact on creating memories worth holding on to. What are your clues from the past? Spend some time writing down what you have learnt from the past year. Then we are truly ready to expire the old stuff, the stuff we no longer need. Like any great structure, the foundations must be strong. We have patterns of behaviour — some serve us and some don’t.  The solution is to ramp up those behaviour patterns that serve us and sever those that don’t. We can exist almost unconsciously— unaware of how our actions are knitted into patterns. Consider the last year carefully and become aware of how your behaviours have affected you in the following areas: emotionally psychologically physically financially. Recall times when you were fulfilled, feeling motivated, purposeful and moving in the right direction. What were the patterns or habits you had then? Do you still have them? Mark out the tough times — what…

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