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Your unique contribution

Being authentic is a very attractive quality but sharing our true selves can leave us feeling exposed. It takes commitment and courage to be genuine. My advice is to embrace your uniqueness, take a risk, stand out and be the real deal! Why do we hide? For some, it’s easier, safer and more comfortable to put up a façade. Consciously or unconsciously we can be trying to live up to others expectations – whether those expectations actually exist or not! Comparing ourselves to and copying others is a no win situation. When we are trying to be someone else, we lose what is special and unique about us. In the pursuit to be like others we lose our authenticity and become a counterfeit copy. An imitation is never as valuable as the real thing. Those who walk their own path are believable, trustworthy and stand out with uniqueness. And in a world of sameness and fitting in – that’s priceless! My good friend Janine Garner, author of From Me to We, understands the importance of standing out and being unique as a step towards commercial collaboration, future proofing our businesses, great leadership and personal success. Check out her 7 week Networking Matrix…

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Fun facts

A smart way to create the life you want is to find the FUN in the journey. Beyond a serious and sober existence lies a playground of possibility – it all doesn’t have to be so serious. Remember the little you in pre-school days – with play time, eat time and sleep time? Your learning and development was done through play. Fast forward – is playtime still there or is it a distant memory? Do weeks pass by with no play, fun or laughter? Faced with a fork in the road and a choice between a “fun road” or “humdrum road” which would you choose? Do you value fun as a way to high achievement and fulfillment? I value fun, so I wasn’t surprised when a values inventory given by The Corporate Anthropologist – Michael Henderson identified some of my top values as: Simplicity/Play: To see simplicity in complexity and take a playful attitude towards organisations and systems that is energising and positive Fantasy/Play: To enrich personal worth through fantasy and play. I do seek fun and playfulness over dull routines. Sure, we can reach high achievement but without finding the FUN, fulfillment may escape you. As a Thought Leaders Mentor, I help…

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Love your work

The fact is that the high cost of living, combined with our desire to have more and more, often means we are under constant pressure to get ahead. When we are aware of what we need to live, and what it will cost to get the extra things we want, we can often experience fear, which may either help us to achieve, or hinder our progress. In the short-term, fear of not meeting our commitments may motivate us, but in the long-term, there are negative consequences by being driven by fear, including stress. When we work each day and are motivated in a sustainable way, towards achieving success and meeting our commitments, we will thrive in the long-term. Thriving in the long term is summed up well by Thought Leaders mantra: Do work you love, With people you like, The way you want. As one of the Mentors at Thought Leaders Business School I not only live each day doing work I love, with people I like, the way I like, we also help others realise the same. As a faculty, we get to spend time with motivated people who have hope and see the possibility for a better life, a life by design with greater purpose and fulfilment. It’s also…

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Uncover the fear

Numbing our psychological pain protects us from feeling hurt. Although in the short term this cover-up provides some relief, in the long run the effects of anesthetizing what’s really going on can be harmful. Fear is often the reason for the masquerade – disguising problems and preventing us from finding solutions, leading us often paralysed with inaction. At times, we don’t realise that we are living in fear: fear of not having enough money, being alone, not being loved, being rejected, losing our job, failure and even success. Sometimes our calm exterior hides the fear inside and we sabotage our success. We then start to make excuses like “I’m too busy” – a cover-up for “I’m not prepared to face what’s behind the fear.” What are you using to numb the pain? Alcohol, drugs, over socialising, oversleeping, overeating or maybe working too much. Do you need some help and new skills to face the fear and take the action? In the Leading Women Programs we check-in regularly to see what the roadblocks are to taking the right action. It’s not until we uncover the fear behind our inaction that we STOP the masquerade and get on with living a better life! If…

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It’s our choice

The way we live each day from the moment we wake up is a choice. You have freedom of choice. Do you agree with this statement? Consider your thoughts on this. In our current situation, we may not always feel like we have a choice however we get to choose to either take responsibility and action or remain in fear and settling for the way things are. It’s our choice! Like planting seeds – we choose what we want to nurture and grow until it’s time to harvest. The seeds are our choices and what we do with those choices determines the quality of our life. As the late Zig Ziglar said “Every choice you make has an end result.” Consider the impact of your choices on where you are now or where you would like to be. Living in the Western world, there are so many choices and the desire to have it all can mean making a decision can be confusing, stressful and time consuming. With the potential for being overwhelmed, more than ever we have to make a careful choice and a quick choice. Careful and quick may seem conflicting – but sometimes we take too long deciding. The longer…

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